I might be talking your ear off in this post, but you said you liked long discussions, too, so... all the excess maybe I'll put into my own post?
I can go shopping without facing overtly sexual advertisements that challenge my identity. [...] Depending upon the environment, that is also attracted-to-women privilege A good example of how sexism hurts everybody: a lot of times those types of ads are insulting to straight men, too, by being all "If you like a certain food/eat a certain way, have certain interests/are considerate, then what are you, a woman?!? It's like... the perfect insult that encompases every gender, sexual orientation, and sex. … which is what sexism does. Hurts everybody. Now, a lotta times, the SJW's like to get into degrees of hurt, but let's not dig into that rat's nest, right? :D
But, I mean, way to assume that sexuals WOULDN'T run into that problem with such a doctor, because all female sexuals that age DO have sex, amirite? I hope I don't come off as... something, Iunno, but you keep on bringing up these good points unintentionally! On the male side of it... it's like reverse slut-shaming! "I assume you're having sex, Mr. Z? What? You're not? You're lying! All men have sex! Are you not a man? Are you gay? Are you just ugly and disgusting? What's wrong with you? You're broken. … Ha ha, you're broken!" So many insults to so many people.
Side note! I have a new RP character concept that I'm trying to work on. A 100% heterosexual man, born male, identifies as male, who enjoys sex, but does not like penetration. (Someone Not You: "wait, then how does he...? Wait, so he doesn't like sex! Does he want his girlfriend to penetrate him? Is he secretly gay? No? I don't get it!")
Why is this list assuming the ONLY reason people would choose not to have sex is that they're asexual? Right? If anything, a sexual might even be more likely to be viewed as a prude or frigid for not wanting sex. It's like "what's your excuse for not having sex?" A- I don't like it. Oh, ok, you're asexual. B- I like it, I just don't want to right now. Why? Because I said no, that's why.
But that all depends on the implication of "frigid". No, seriously, it does. One definition implies the person is being stubborn or mean. That in in another context or that there exists a circumstance in which they would engage willingly, happily, and enjoy it with no regret. And I guess that there "is" concievably a state in which that could be any person but not really because-
"Ok, so is there any way you would enjoy walking in the woods with me?" "I guess... if we were going fast. Oh, and it was warm. And we had music, and I could be sitting down and reading and we were headed towards a movie and it didn't smell so nature-y." "So... you'd enjoy walking in the woods with me if it was more like riding in a car nowhere near the woods." "Yeah."
After WHAT age? I've been trying to figure that out for a long time now. From what I gather, the "supposed to" ages are supposed to align with arbitrary milestones- "sweet" sixteen, "legal" eighteen "last teenage hurrah" 19 College first year "party" age AKA Legal Drinking 21 "Late, but still kinda sexy that you waited" 22
This is what I learned from teevee. Then again, I was very surprised to learn that people in high school were supposedly expected to be having regular sex. I found that out in high school and this was me- "What? With who?! And when do you have time?! Monday and Wednesday is forensics, tuesday is orchestra, thursday is orchestra and therapist, Friday you get to go on the internet. And Saturday is Rick Dee's Weekly Top 40 Countdown on 95.5 WPLJ and then Saturday Night 80's on the same station. That just leaves Sunday between A Prairie Home Companion at 11:00 and This American Life at 4:00."
Delightful post; I'm saving the rest to read later today; please speak up if that's "too much" and I will make an LJ entry instead.
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I can go shopping without facing overtly sexual advertisements that challenge my identity. [...] Depending upon the environment, that is also attracted-to-women privilege
A good example of how sexism hurts everybody: a lot of times those types of ads are insulting to straight men, too, by being all "If you like a certain food/eat a certain way, have certain interests/are considerate, then what are you, a woman?!? It's like... the perfect insult that encompases every gender, sexual orientation, and sex. … which is what sexism does. Hurts everybody. Now, a lotta times, the SJW's like to get into degrees of hurt, but let's not dig into that rat's nest, right? :D
But, I mean, way to assume that sexuals WOULDN'T run into that problem with such a doctor, because all female sexuals that age DO have sex, amirite?
I hope I don't come off as... something, Iunno, but you keep on bringing up these good points unintentionally! On the male side of it... it's like reverse slut-shaming! "I assume you're having sex, Mr. Z? What? You're not? You're lying! All men have sex! Are you not a man? Are you gay? Are you just ugly and disgusting? What's wrong with you? You're broken. … Ha ha, you're broken!" So many insults to so many people.
Side note! I have a new RP character concept that I'm trying to work on. A 100% heterosexual man, born male, identifies as male, who enjoys sex, but does not like penetration. (Someone Not You: "wait, then how does he...? Wait, so he doesn't like sex! Does he want his girlfriend to penetrate him? Is he secretly gay? No? I don't get it!")
Why is this list assuming the ONLY reason people would choose not to have sex is that they're asexual?
Right? If anything, a sexual might even be more likely to be viewed as a prude or frigid for not wanting sex. It's like "what's your excuse for not having sex?"
A- I don't like it. Oh, ok, you're asexual.
B- I like it, I just don't want to right now. Why? Because I said no, that's why.
But that all depends on the implication of "frigid". No, seriously, it does. One definition implies the person is being stubborn or mean. That in in another context or that there exists a circumstance in which they would engage willingly, happily, and enjoy it with no regret. And I guess that there "is" concievably a state in which that could be any person but not really because-
"Ok, so is there any way you would enjoy walking in the woods with me?"
"I guess... if we were going fast. Oh, and it was warm. And we had music, and I could be sitting down and reading and we were headed towards a movie and it didn't smell so nature-y."
"So... you'd enjoy walking in the woods with me if it was more like riding in a car nowhere near the woods."
"Yeah."
After WHAT age?
I've been trying to figure that out for a long time now. From what I gather, the "supposed to" ages are supposed to align with arbitrary milestones-
"sweet" sixteen,
"legal" eighteen
"last teenage hurrah" 19
College first year
"party" age AKA Legal Drinking 21
"Late, but still kinda sexy that you waited" 22
This is what I learned from teevee. Then again, I was very surprised to learn that people in high school were supposedly expected to be having regular sex. I found that out in high school and this was me- "What? With who?! And when do you have time?! Monday and Wednesday is forensics, tuesday is orchestra, thursday is orchestra and therapist, Friday you get to go on the internet. And Saturday is Rick Dee's Weekly Top 40 Countdown on 95.5 WPLJ and then Saturday Night 80's on the same station. That just leaves Sunday between A Prairie Home Companion at 11:00 and This American Life at 4:00."
Delightful post; I'm saving the rest to read later today; please speak up if that's "too much" and I will make an LJ entry instead.