"I hate the idea that if one person in a relationship is a little insecure and not super strong, the relationship is fucked up and unhealthy. " Oi, yes - and let me guess, you've had to deal with that in arguments with militant shippers? D:
"(I also hate the idea that you MUST be 100% super secure and self-loving with no emotional hangups in order to be able to have a relationship. At all. If that were made a law no one would ever date or get married because there are TONS of people with issues out there.)" *rapid nodding* YES. And part of why it's awful is that it puts additional strain on people who have insecurities or similar issues - not only do they WORRY that nobody will ever love them, but they're being told that they have no RIGHT to love anyone/be loved by them! And this is supposed to be an enlightened and empathic idea?!
"YES. THIS. I have friends I've argued with plenty of times. I also have friends I seldom if ever argue with. Some people just do not argue with each other. At all. And it has nothing to do with hiding things or repressing or whatnot, it just means sometimes, two people simply have no reasons or need to argue with each other. The. End." *double thumbs-up* Describes it exactly. Sometimes you just don't conflict with a person! Sometimes you do! Neither relationship is better! Why is this so hard to grasp...?
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"I hate the idea that if one person in a relationship is a little insecure and not super strong, the relationship is fucked up and unhealthy. "
Oi, yes - and let me guess, you've had to deal with that in arguments with militant shippers? D:
"(I also hate the idea that you MUST be 100% super secure and self-loving with no emotional hangups in order to be able to have a relationship. At all. If that were made a law no one would ever date or get married because there are TONS of people with issues out there.)"
*rapid nodding* YES. And part of why it's awful is that it puts additional strain on people who have insecurities or similar issues - not only do they WORRY that nobody will ever love them, but they're being told that they have no RIGHT to love anyone/be loved by them! And this is supposed to be an enlightened and empathic idea?!
"YES. THIS. I have friends I've argued with plenty of times. I also have friends I seldom if ever argue with. Some people just do not argue with each other. At all. And it has nothing to do with hiding things or repressing or whatnot, it just means sometimes, two people simply have no reasons or need to argue with each other. The. End."
*double thumbs-up* Describes it exactly. Sometimes you just don't conflict with a person! Sometimes you do! Neither relationship is better! Why is this so hard to grasp...?
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