*twiddles thumbs* And now for some mocking of a pop-psych checklist.

[guardians_song]

Is This Your Mom?

Thank goodness, no. Pink is so not that woman's color.

Narcissism is a spectrum disorder with the most severe end of the spectrum considered a narcissistic personality disorder.
Meanwhile, we doubtless consider the other end another disorder which we can sell you gaudy books and expensive therapy courses on - CHA-CHING!
A woman can have several narcissistic traits and not fit the personality disorder.
Oh, well, thank goodness, at least this pop-psych is lacking the usual splitting -
Mothers with only a few traits listed can negatively affect their daughters in insidious ways
Wait, did I say something? Never mind.
which is explained in Dr. McBride’s book.
Hit the "Buy" button now!

(Check all those that apply to your relationship with your mother)
Notice that it's lacking actual check boxes... *nitpick*
I'll just be mocking the stupider items - by which I mean 'The ones that I know will get misinterpreted by people seeking diagnoses like gamers seek achievements'. NO mother is going to get through this checklist unscathed. Which is exactly what the pop-psych selling this book wants, of course, but it's a dirty move regardless. Not least because I know people on Tumblr have been abusing 'narcissistic parents' to add to their persecution points...

I know that all of these points can be damning, but the same can be said of most any personality trait checklist. And I'm not commenting about any which may apply to my family, because that would be interfering with my point.

1. When you discuss your life issues with your mother, does she divert the discussion to talk about herself?
How dare your mother use any examples from her own life! OPPRESSION!!11!
2. When you discuss your feelings with your mother, does she she try to top the feeling with her own?
3. Does your mother act jealous of you?
4. Does your mother lack empathy for your feelings?
'She doesn't UNDERSTAND ME!!11!!'
5. Does your mother only support those things you do that reflect on her as a “good mother?”
Don'tcha know, parents are obligated to support their children 100% of the time on absolutely everything. "Going off to smoke pot, darling? Here, let me show you how to roll a blunt properly!"
6. Have you consistently felt a lack of emotional closeness with your mother?
7. Have you consistently questioned whether or not your mother likes you or loves you?
8. Does your mother only do things for you when others can see?
9. When something happens in your life (accident, illness, divorce,) does your mother react with how it will affect her rather than how you feel?
10. Is or was your mother overly conscious of what others think (neighbors, friends, family, co-workers)?
Hoo boy. As far as this is concerned, I'm considering this item an actual sign of narcissism - on the child's part.

In my observation, hypersensitivity to social cues is something going on in the head. It's not a lifestyle choice. It's possible to be an egotistical, remorseless jerk while caring nothing for what others think. It's possible to be a nice, kindly person who freaks out over what Random Person #248 standing-on-the-street-corner might think. If one hasn't caught on to this, one seriously needs to remove one's head from one's... anyway. 

11. Does your mother deny her own feelings?
? I'm taking this to mean "Do your opinions on her emotions and her opinions on her emotions differ?" In which case - yeah, tell me MORE about how ~you know her better than she knows herself~. Tell me more about your special psychic powers, please! How well is that tinfoil hat keeping the aliens out?
12. Does your mother blame things on you or others rather than own responsibility for her feelings or actions?
13. Is or was your mother hurt easily and then carried a grudge for a long time without resolving the problem?
Oh, yes, those evil emotionally-sensitive people! How DARE they not instantly forgive everyone who's ever hurt them?! And how DARE they not immediately resolve any problems with people - it's not like bringing such things up with certain people is guaranteed to bring MORE emotional injury and pain, nope. Clearly, it's all their fault. I mean, clearly.
14. Do you feel you were a slave to your mother?
15. Do you feel you were responsible for your mother’s ailments or sickness (headaches, stress, illness)?
And what if you WERE responsible for your mother's stress levels?
16. Did you have to take care of your mother’s physical needs as a child?
How DARE a mother be disabled in any way! Don'tcha know women should exist solely for their children's sakes?! Don'tcha know they should endure any suffering in silence, lest their little babies be traumatized by the existence of people other than their perfect little selves?!
17. Do you feel unaccepted by your mother?
Again, parents are obligated to feel unconditional acceptance of their children, nooo matter what they do. Yep. Kindly check your free will and sound judgment at the nearest psychologist's office once you have a child, because you won't need them where you're going.
18. Do you feel your mother was critical of you?
Remember, folks, any criticism=bad. Only fawning affection and coddling should be permitted. But not too much coddling! Just address the child as "You called, Lord and Master?" at all times. That should do the trick.
19. Do you feel helpless in the presence of your mother?
20. Are you shamed often by your mother?
21. Do you feel your mother knows the real you?
This should really have an addendum of "And you haven't actively been hiding it from her?" *minimizes browser window*
22. Does your mother act like the world should revolve around her?
23. Do you find it difficult to be a separate person from your mother?
24. Does your mother appear phony to you?
ALL ADULTS ARE PHOOOONIES (/Holden Caulfield)
25. Does your mother want to control your choices?
That's right. How dare parents exert ANY control over their children?! Everyone knows they're just love-and-life-support systems on two legs! Filthy HYOOOMANS- er, ADOOOOLTS!
26. Does your mother swing from egotistical to a depressed mood?
That's right, everyone! Bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder is TOTALLY a warning sign of being a narcissist. GENIUS. Perhaps next, being a porpoise will be a warning sign of being an orca! Or being a giant squid will be a warning sign of being an octopus!
27. Did you feel you had to take care of your mother’s emotional needs as a child?
While that's unpleasant, I need to point out this isn't necessarily narcissism. The mother could be less mentally stable than the child. The child could be shielded from domestic issues that make the mother a bit of a wreck. Et cetera, et cetera. This situation is not GOOD, but it is not necessarily the mother's fault. 
28. Do you feel manipulated in the presence of your mother?
29. Do you feel valued by mother for what you do rather than who you are?
'I wish to be valued for my deep and complicated feelings! I don't want any of these icky things like RESULTS and STANDARDS clogging up the infinite shower of praise that ought to be poured upon me at all times!'
30. Is your mother controlling, acting like a victim or martyr?
Heaven forbid a mother ACTUALLY be victimized or martyred in any way. But, I mean, it's not like parents are PEOPLE or anything. 

...You know, I'm casually interested in psychology for learning tools of psychological analysis and behavior patterns of human beings. I don't like the field and the attitudes within it much at all. Stuff like this is one of the reasons why.
31. Does your mother make you act different from how you really feel?
It's not like society in general often makes people act different from how they really feel. Nope. 
32. Does your mother compete with you?
If your mother is competing with you about anything major, either you're really advanced or your mother is... severely stunted. I'll grant that.
33. Does your mother always have to have things her way?
33b. In other words, do you ever see any evidence that she's your biological mother? ...*ducks rotten tomatoes*

Note: All of these questions relate to narcissistic traits.
'Does she breathe? ALL NARCISSISTS BREATHE!!111!!'
The more questions you checked, the more likely your mother has narcissistic traits
- or the pop-psychologist creating this list has book-selling traits -
and this has caused some difficulty for you as a growing daughter and adult.
Or you're a troubled teen/adult seeking answers to your issues, and self-help marketers know just how to tailor lists to fit your never-quite-resolved issues, soothe your guilt over your suppressed persecution complex, and pad out your self-esteem by telling you that all the things you hate about yourself are real, but they're definitely Someone Else's Fault. 

With all due respect, I am beginning to get a bit more of an idea as to why so many people are childfree now. If I thought I had to behave as the exact opposite of this towards kids, I'd get a hysterectomy on the spot. Since when did treating children decently equate to becoming freaking Bramimond? No self, no weaknesses, no opinions of your own... only an unconditional reflection of the children... *SHUDDER*

A lot of these points are damn creepy and problematic. But they're padded about with a bunch of 'gateway points' that, in my opinion, are so loosely worded that even the best mother possible under non-ideal circumstances will get slammed with them - and that's dirty fighting. It devalues just how bad the REAL warning signs are, too.

Anyway, sorry about that! Just had to mock my way through some psychological nonsense.